The Uncommon Man

December 30, 2005

A Poem For The End Of The Year

As this is the last post of 2005, I thought this poem would be appropriate. It is from a member of Men Against Violence Against Women in Trinidad:

LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY
By David Law.

WHEN MEN AND WOMEN DO NOT UNDERSTAND THE POWER OF THE EQUATION
SUBTRACTION WILL ALWAYS BE A DISTRACTION
SUPERIORITY MORE OFTEN THAN NOT BREEDS INSECURITY
PLEASE LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN FAMILY VALUES ARE NOW AN ENDANGERED SPECIES
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE STATISTICS JUST A SERIES IN AN EVOLVING MORASS
FORGET THE RACE, JUMP OUT OF YOUR CLASS
LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN SOME OF OUR CHILDREN ARE HOLDING THIS NATION TO RANSOM
CRIME DRUGS VIOLENCE JUVENILE DELINQUENCY MAY NOT GO AWAY EASILY
BLAME IT ON PARENTAL FAILURES, POLITICAL MISERIES
STILL LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WREN OUR WOMENFOLK ARE TOKENLY HONOURED AND APPRECIATED
GENDER IMBALANCES ARE IMPREGNATED IN OUR CULTURAL PSYCHE
DISMANTLE ALL BARRIERS, ADOPT AN ALL INCLUSIVE PHILOSOPHY
SO WE CAN BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN POVERTY KNOWS NO REGION OR RACE
IT’S TIME FOR US TO SHARE A HUMANE SPACE
BUILD ON SOCIAL CAPITAL, PROMOTE ECONOMIC STABILITY
LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN OUR HOMES HAVE BEEN RIPPED APART BY MORAL AND SPIRITUAL DECAY
AND THE ONUS IS ON OUR WOMENFOLK TO KEEP THINGS AT BAY
PRAY FOR OUR MOTHERS, OUR SISTERS TO COPE
THEIR ONLY AMMUNITION, FAITH AND HOPE
WE MUST BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN MEN ABSCOND, TRUE FATHER FIGURES STILL TO BE FOUND
SINGLE PARENTING BECOMES AN ADVERSARY
THE SILENT RAGE OF A GENERATION, IS MORE THAN A TRAGEDY
MEN LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN POLITICIANS PONTIFICATE AND LEGISLATE ON SOCIAL VALUES
PROVIDING ONLY SHORT TERM ECONOMIC CLUES
THE ROAD TO SOCIAL STABILITY IS LONGER THAN FINANCIAL PRUDENCY
LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN HOUSEWIVES ARE NOT ACCEPTED AS HOME MANAGERS
A PERFECT HOME WILL ALWAYS BE A MYTH
GREATER INCOME BUT NO POWER SHARING
IS NOT THE STRUCTURE FOR SOCIAL FAMILY PLANNING
AVOID THE TENSIONS, DO A FEASIBILITY
LET US BUILD A PEACEFUL SOCIETY.

WHEN WE AS A PEOPLE BECOME VOID OF RACE, CLASS, COLOUR
AND UNITE WITH ONE VIGOUR
TO ERADICATE THE SCOURGES THAT LIMIT OUR POWER
BUILDING A PEACEFUL SOCIETY
WILL NO LONGER BE A DREAM, BUT A PRACTICAL REALITY
PEACE, LET US SHARE THE PROCESS.


Happy New Year!

Posted by Russell at 10:56 AM | Comments (1)

December 18, 2005

Job Announcement - Nevada

Job Announcement
NV Men Against Violence Project Coordinator
Nevada Coalition Against Sexual Violence (NCASV)

The NCASV, a statewide coalition of sexual assault programs, is seeking a full-time NV Men Against Violence Project Coordinator for
its Las Vegas-based office. The NV Men Against Violence Project
Coordinator, with the assistance of the NCASV Prevention Educator,
will develop, implement, and evaluate a statewide violence
prevention project that focuses prevention efforts on boys and men
as well as promotes the central concept of men taking responsibility
with other men to end violence against women. Primary
responsibilities will include:

• Coordinating a statewide prevention effort addressing the
roles of males in sexual violence prevention.

• Helping to establish and facilitate local gender-based
prevention programs that will engage boys and young men in ending
violence against women.

• Providing leadership, resources, and support to contracted
project partner organizations located across the state of Nevada.

• Providing technical assistance and training to other youth-
serving professionals and institutions statewide.

• Coordinating a statewide public awareness campaign.

• Overseeing grants and contracts with local project partner
organizations.

• Compiling and analyzing program data and creating reports as
well as managing program budget.

• Serving on committees and taskforces and engaging in other
activities such as speaking engagements and media interviews to
promote the message of the project and the mission of the NCASV.


The ideal candidate will possess a bachelor's degree or equivalent
in a related field and at least one year of experience working with
youth-serving professionals. Candidate must also be an excellent
public speaker, be efficient, organized, and able to prioritize in
the face of multiple tasks, as well as demonstrate an ability to
work independently and collaboratively. Familiarity with issues
related to gender-based violence prevention, masculinity, and men's
health also strongly preferred. Must be available for frequent
travel and work on some evenings and weekends.

The NCASV offers a competitive salary, a benefits package including
medical, dental, vision, and life insurance, and participation in a
403(b) plan. To apply send a cover letter, resume, and salary
requirements to Laurie Hackett, Executive Director, at
laurie@ncasv.org or by fax (702) 940-2032, by December 30, 2005.

The NCASV is an equal opportunity employer.

Posted by Russell at 07:55 PM | Comments (0)

December 05, 2005

Men Shop Like They Are Going to War

Here is an odd bit of news ephemera - a study by internet retailers regarding the online shopping habits of men and women. The long and short of it is "men are on a mission and women are on an exploration". In other words, according to this site (a internet retail site) it is just like in the "real" world - men go at things with a single-minded purpose and women are more willing to think expansively - let one idea (or in this case the search for a piece of clothing) lead them to something completely different.

One thing in this brief article sounded like a purposed plan for war. Perhaps there is a connection:

Men shop online just like they shop offline - they look for something, they find it and they get out.

via Internet Retailer - Men are on a mission

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November 30, 2005

Airlines Discriminate Against Men?

What do you think? Air New Zealand and Qantas airlines both ban men from sitting next to children who are travelling alone. Instead they prefer to sit children next to empty seats or next to women. They claim that it is what they believe their customers want. Others claim it is discrimination against men. Your thoughts?
via The New Zealand Herald - Ban On Men Sitting Next to Children

Posted by Russell at 12:29 PM | Comments (1)

October 21, 2005

National Men Make Dinner Day

Only 11 days left...until National Men Make Dinner Day. Actually, I believe this is a Canadian event, so maybe by celebrating it around the world, it will go international.

This is a tongue-in-cheek site about a tongue-in-cheek, but legitimate event. Personally, I have a few signature receipes that I make for dinner - breakfast is actually my speciality. But, I am going to honor this holiday this year and try something new, hopefully not to the detriment of my family.

Thursday November 3rd
National Men Make Dinner Day

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October 14, 2005

Are Churches More Feminine Than Masculine?

Here is an issue I never considered - the balance of men and women congregates in churches. In a thoughtful post at Camassia's weblog linked below she notes that there seems to be a trend for there to be more gender-balance in evangelical churches and more women than men in "mainline" churches. Amongst other points, she wonders if this is because of the patriarchal nature of evangelical churches or maybe because of the difference in how men and women relate - that somehow churches are too girly.

What is also interesting to me is that, according to this piece, some churches struggle with the question of how to engage men in the church - especially young men. This is the same question I get asked by social service agencies in my region all the time.

via Camassia - It's A Guy Thing

Posted by Russell at 06:52 AM | Comments (0)

September 29, 2005

A Generation of Passionless Men?

An interesting article about this Salon.com writer's observation that the young urban men she meets in NYC are all passionless and numb. The link below this is a series of letters Salon.com received in response to the article. My favorite response as to why so many young men are passionless - "free internet porn".

via Salon.com - Attack of the Listless Lads

via Salon.com - Letters in response

Posted by Russell at 06:39 AM | Comments (0)

September 14, 2005

A Humor Piece

A bit of shameless self-promotion, if you don't mind. One of my "hobbies" is writing humor pieces. Today I have a humor piece published on a website and it's focused around gender, thus, its inclusion here. Please check out - Pay The Rent: A Solo Play Exploring Gender Politics (via Yankee Pot Roast).

Posted by Russell at 06:22 AM | Comments (0)




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