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May 31, 2006

Feminism And Last Names

What I really appreciate about Hugo Schwyzer's blog, as I've mentioned before, is his desire to be fully transparent as a pro-feminist male. He is willing to put his thoughts and experiences out in a public forum and allow others to applaud him, argue with him - and most importantly - allow him to re-think something and potentially change his mind. In my view, that alone (being willing to take a point-of-view and then publicly step-back from it) makes him stand apart from the stereotypical man.

The posts below are about the practice of last names in marriage. A seemingly small issue in the world of feminism. But it is really a huge statement - full of power and meaning. As "hypen-aters", my wife and I put a lot of time and thinking into what we would do with our last names. Personally, I liked the idea of altering both of our names when entering into our marriage - while at the same time keeping our original "identities". Hugo has a different take on this practice. And, if you read the posts and the comments, received some very negative feedback. I post this, less for the content about names, but more for an example of a man living a pro-feminist live and sharing the ins-and-outs of it. It is why I frequently link to Mr. Schwyzer's blog.

via Hugo Schwyzer - Hugo's Feminist Credentials Get Pulled: A Lengthy Post on Feminism and Last Names

via Hugo Schwyzer - "I'm Disappointed in you, Hugo: More Navel Gazing

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May 30, 2006

Males In G Movies

The folks at the great organization Dads and Daughters commissioned a study to look at the portrayal of males in G-rated movies. The resulting report is called "G Movies Give Boys a D". The report: "analyzes how male characters in G-rated films outnumber female characters by a lopsided margin, are seldom in significant relationships, and are more likely to be physically aggressive". You can read the full report below (you'll find the link to the report on the right-side of the page).

via See Jane - G Movies Give Boys a D: Portraying Males as Dominant, Disconnected and Dangerous

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May 26, 2006

Pro-Feminist Men = Men Haters?

I know a number of men who have taken women's studies classes and have had to endure lots of questions from male friends. I have never taken a women's studies class. But I did endure a situation after leaving a Take Back The Night rally about a decade ago. I was walking alone not-too-far from the rally and a carload of young men drove by. They whipped a bottle at me, which missed, and yelled out "faggot". I was startled and a bit scared, obviously, at almost having a bottle smash into my head. And I was disturbed by the obvious homophobia. But I was blown-away at the idea that these guys were most likely trying to assault me because I was attending a rally that was about keeping women safe. Such transparent misogyny.

The post below reflects a bit on this phenomenon.

via Real Men Are Not - “You took women studies 200? It’s not just a bunch of angry lesbian man-haters is it?!”

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May 25, 2006

Some Thoughts On "Self-Made Man"

In February, I did a post about a book called Self-Made Man. A book in which the author, Norah Vincent, dresses up as a man and engages with men in several different scenarios in order to see what men are "really like" with other men. Ampersand at Alas, A Blog, gives an interesting review that is worth a read, even if you haven't read the book.

via Alas, A Blog - Self-Made Man by Norah Vincent

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May 24, 2006

Burger King's "I Am A Man" Commercial

There has been alot of "buzz" recently about the new Burger King commercial that takes Helen Reddy's song I Am Woman, and turns it into I Am Man. On one level, one can dismiss this as simply a silly commercial. But, I love the process of dissecting different forms of media and seeing what the underlying messages are. Especially in a commercial such as this which re-uses many other messages that we see in media all the time. And that is when we need to be critical about media - not a single commercial, but when there are numerous messages that together sink deep into our collective psyches. The links below (and links wihtin the posts) do a good job of pulling apart this commerical - not only looking its anti-feminism stance, but at its, ultimately, anti-male stance.

via Alas, A Blog - "I Am a Man" Burger King Commercial

via Third Estate Sunday Review - Shame of the Week (Musical)

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May 23, 2006

National Conference on Domestic Violence

NCADV's 2006 National Conference on Domestic Violence
July 9-12, 2006 in Atlanta, Georgia

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Comic Stips That Explore Masculinity?

Here is a post from the new blog I mentioned yesterday - Masculinities in Media. I particularly appreciate this post because I am a fan of graphic novels and comics. I've found that the best ones read more deeply into the issues of our day (both political and personal) than many novels, of which I read alot of too. Patrick, in his post linked to below, points to several comics that pick-up on themes important to a site like this.

via Masculinities in Media - I Love Comics

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May 22, 2006

New Blogs To Check-Out

Back from a week off, I've found a couple of new blogs that I thought I would call attention to. The first is Masculinities in Media brought to you by the great organization Men Can Stop Rape. The second is The Rape Crisis Blog. Here is the description from the site:

I've created this blog in order to bring into consciousness the sad reality of rape victims around the world in the 21st century. Currently I'm collecting every piece of information I can find regarding this subject, and put it here with reference to the origin.

Check them out....

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May 12, 2006

The Uncommon Man Takes a Week Off

The Uncommon Man is taking a week off. We'll be back with our daily posts on May 22nd. Take care...

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Gender Roles on Two Great Sci-Fi Shows

I am a part-time "geek" - one who loves a good sci-fi movie or TV show. I also do social justice work to challenge sexism and violence against women as well as working for the movement to offer alternatives to traditional models of masculinity. It is not too often that these two worlds of mine meet. But below is a post that takes a brief look at gender roles in two very good sci-fi shows (both, I highly recommend) - Firefly and Battlestar Gallactica (the new version). Take a look:

Mad Melancholic Feminista - Sci-Fi and Gender Roles

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May 11, 2006

Some Anti-Pornography Resources

Luke over at Real Men Are Not gives us some great resources on "pornography, anti-pornography media, pro-porn media, feminist politics concerning pornography etc". Worth checking out...

via Real Men Are Not - Pornography

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May 10, 2006

Male Impotence on College Campuses

It is new information to me that erectile dysfunction is increasing in college-aged males. It is even newer "information" that some are explaining this away as the result of feminisim. Here's the logic: women have become more sexually assertive; the "sexual allure" of the chase is minimized or gone; men aren't turned on. This obviously is yet more mis-guided feminist backlash as well as demeaning to men (i.e. the idea that men can only be sexual with someone that they can't have - they are incapable of intimacy and the sexual feelings that result). In the post below, Hugo Schwyzer offers some good thinking on all of this:

via Hugo Schwyzer - Thanking God for Impotence: A Reflection on Erectile Dysfunction

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May 09, 2006

Homophobia in The Middle East

There has been a surge in homophobic killings by security officials in Iraq, including "the murder of a 14-year-old boy, who, according to witnesses, was shot on his doorstep by Iraqi police for the apparent crime of being gay". It also seems that the Bush Administration is "willing to engage in some diplomacy with Iran":

via Lawyers, Guns and Money - The Worse, Most Severe Way

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May 08, 2006

More Stay-At-Home Dads

The brief piece below at Rebel Dad highlights the difficulty in coming up with the near-actual number of stay-at-home dads - a number that, it seems to me, is increasing greatly. So why care about numbers? Well, the more stay-at-home dads counted, the more of a voice they can gain, and the more policies (such as flexible time) can be given to these fathers.

via Rebel Dad - The Numbers Game, Continued

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Symposium on Men's Health

4th Annual Symposium on Men's Health
Friday, June 23, 2006
- Location - MMS Headquarters at Waltham Woods - Waltham, MA

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May 05, 2006

FBI Behavioral Scientist on Men Who Rape

Over at Real Men Are Not is a good post about an interview with an FBI behavioral expert and he talks about rapists. Luke does a good job of addressing the tone - which is more focused on serial rapists (the minority) and not those who date-rape (the majority). The brief excerpts on the post are intriguing enough that I am going to read the whole interview over the weekend.

via Real Men Are Not - Men Who Rape: An Interesting Interview with an FBI Behavioral Science Guy

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May 04, 2006

Entrenching the Binary Gender System

At Alas, A Blog is an interesting post regarding the idea of breaking the "binary gender system" - i.e. male and female. Is transitioning from male to female or female to male, breaking this system? Or is it enforcing it switching within the two? Read below:

via Alas, A Blog - On Transgender, Transsexuals, and Entrenching the Binary Gender System

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May 03, 2006

Thoughts on the Duke Lacrosse Rape Case

I haven't posted anything from Hugo Schwyzer in a while. But he recently posted some great thoughts on masculinity and rape. His thoughts were sparked by a post at another regular link here, Alas, A Blog, which is sparked by a news piece from another site (and now I am posting about all of it here - welcome to the internet). The orginal piece had this quote:"Masculinity is something that has to be proven", she said. "It is not innate or natural. It’s something young men have to establish, and they have to establish it publicly". Hugo follows this by examining the impact of masculinity and the concept of "proving it". He ends with this final thought which is quite sobering:

(Many men)derive more lasting pleasure from sharing with other men their conquest narrative than they do from the sexual experience itself! That's one of the most universal -- and ugliest -- aspects of modern American masculinity.

via Hugo Schwyzer - Some Thoughts on Gang Bangs and "Proving It"

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May 02, 2006

The Aftermath of Childhood Trauma

A recent study called Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) points to something, again, fairly obvious:

There is a strong correlation between childhood trauma and serious adult health problems including tobacco use, substance abuse, obesity, cancer, heart disease, depression and a higher risk for unintended pregnancy.

What stands out about this study, though is the size of it, and the fact that the results were recently presented before Congressional aides. One of the more interesting and scary findings of the study was:
They found high incidence to exposure to violence during childhood among the middle- and upper-middle class San Diego population that they surveyed in the late 1990s. Twenty-one percent of respondents (25 percent of women and 16 percent of men) were exposed to sexual abuse as children, and 13 percent said their mothers were sometimes, often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped or had something thrown at them and/or sometimes, often or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard, and/or ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes and/or ever threatened or hurt by a knife or a gun.

via End Abuse - Echoes of Trauma

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May 01, 2006

Army Suicides At High Level

Not surprisingly, the army has seen an increase in suicides recently. A news article about this is referenced in the post below from Real Men Are Not. Luke, in his post, correctly identifies this as a men's issue (linked to the concept of "real men don't cry or seek help"). The current rates of suicide are the highest since 1993 - which follows the first Gulf War. I am also reminded of the name of the song from the TV show M.A.S.H.(about doctors in the Korean War): "Suicide is Painless".

via Real Men Are Not - Army Suicides Hit Highest Level Since '93

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