March 31, 2006
Children's Exposure to Violence
Here's some weekend reading... Linked below is an interesting study about children's exposure to television & media violence. The study is a bit old - 2001. There are also some links to information on psychological trauma and tendency toward violent behavior, too.
via American Academy of Pediatrics - Media Violence
March 30, 2006
The Stride of the Anti-patriarchal Movement
The post below at Darkdaughta is a passionate and engaging piece by a feminist looking at the sad and harmful effects of patriarchy on men. She speaks particularly about the lack of a "real" men's movement against patriarchy like the feminist movement for women:
Then I thought about men and realized with sadness that they had not had even one giant, worldwide movement that invited them to redefine their relationships to patriarchy, themselves as men, their relationships to each other, to children, to wimmin. There has been no collective, gathered, centralize production of any bodies of thought, theory, writing, culture that offered opportunities for them to revolutionize their ways of being. Nada, zilch, bubcuss.
via Darkdaughta - Anti-patriarchal Movement Yet To Find Its Stride
March 29, 2006
Pro-Feminst Men and Pornography
Hugo Schwyzer, over at his blog, has an interesting post about pro-feminist men and the use of pornography. I agree with his claim that there is little discussion in the pro-feminist blogosphere (and in larger pro-feminist circles, in my view) about pro-feminist men's relationship with porn (especially on-line porn and strip clubs). He points out that there are resources for men to stop the compulsion of viewing pornography, but they are mostly focused around religious men (like the Promise-Keepers). There are little resources or places for discussion and support for non-religious men to examine their relationship to pornography. A great post on a controversial and mostly-hidden topic.
via Hugo Schwyzer - Another Really Long One on Pro-Feminism and the Sex Industry
March 28, 2006
Marketing Cleanliness To Men
There is a link below to a short piece on marketing a cleaning product toward men. The most disturbing thought is the tag-line: Take Back The Shower". A re-working of "Take Back The Night". Let's hope not...
via Feministing - Marketing Cleanliness To Men
March 27, 2006
Plight Deepens For Black Men
The problems for black men are worse than previously thought a series of studies show. While the economy shifted upward in the 90's and welfare was overhauled, black men have only seen an increase in incarceration and unemployment.
"There's something very different happening with young black men, and it's something we can no longer ignore," said Ronald B. Mincy, professor of social work at Columbia University and editor of "Black Males Left Behind"
via New York Times - Plight Deepens For Black Men, Studies Warn
March 24, 2006
U.K. Rape Ads Aimed At Men
There is a U.K. anti-rape ad campaign that focuses on men. It even uses the word "consent" and focuses on the idea that if a woman is drunk, she can't give consent. This is great. Below is a link to the news-piece on the campaign. And then, a post at Alas, (a blog) that offers some critique of the announcement.
via BBC News - Sex Consent Campaign Targets Men
via Alas, (a blog) - Anti-Rape Ads Aimed At Men
March 23, 2006
Doing Anti-Sexist Work
In the work that I do, I often am asked by men who want to live a pro-feminist life: what can I do? And my response usually involves asking them to work from the ground, up: educate yourself and talk with other men who are or want to do this work. What I am not asked enough is - I am doing that, but what comes next? Hugo, in his post below, asks and then answers the type of questions that pro-feminist men (and women, too, I suppose) should be asking themselves.
via Hugo Schwyzer - A Long And Personal Meme On Anti-Sexist Work
March 22, 2006
Men Are More Prone To Injury When Mad
A study finds that men are more prone to being injured when they are angry (another study that confirms the obvious):
If men described themselves as being hostile, angry or mad at themselves, their risk of injury doubled. Vinson estimated that at least 10 percent of emergency room cases could be avoided if people did not take action when they were angry.
It is interesting that this isn't the case for women. Why the difference? The study did not delve into that. I suspect that it's because women are more likely to talk through their anger with someone, while men are more likely to bottle it up or expend their anger through action.
via Missouri University News - Men More Prone To Maladies When Mad
March 21, 2006
Female Basketball Players Out-Graduate Men
Since we are in the middle of the NCAA Basketball Tournament, this seems like an appropriate post. It seems that a recent study has found that female basketball players are more likely to graduate than male basketball players. Here's the stat:
Ninety-five percent of the women's teams graduated half of their players. Only 64 percent of the men's teams did the same.
via Orlando Sentinel - Women Outdo Men In Graduations
March 20, 2006
Pro-Feminist Men: Reach Out And Comment
Last week I posted a link to a piece on Official Shrub about the amount of Men's Rights men commenting on feminist sites. Well, Tekanji from Official Shrub posted a comment to that piece. I've decided, since the comments sections on this site are not fully utilized, to highlight her comment as a post. Part of her comment excerpted below is regarding which kind of men post to feminist sites:
Ultimately, I think the problem is less the misogynists (because, for all that they can get particularly nasty, they are an extremist minority) and more unexamined privilege. It's the guys who mean well, but don't have the tools (or the drive) to actually translate their intentions into a reality. Because, I mean, they aren't a misogynist, so what are we women complaining about?
I want to encourage all of the pro-feminist men who visit this site to visit some of the other pro-feminist sites and post a comment to an entry that interests you. You can link to some of the sites through the "Links" section on the right. Visit these sites regularly and comment often....
March 17, 2006
Pro-Feminist Men, Not Masculine?
Favorite blogger, Hugo Schwyzer, reflects on some of the posts in a comments section where Men's Rights Actists question Hugo's masculinity. He considers how this is a standard tactic:
As I've written before, most criticism of pro-feminist men (those of us who ask men to make radical changes in their lives) falls into one of the three categories:
1. We're all gay, and thus not "real men"; our words and our appeals ought not to be taken seriously by straight guys because of our sexuality.
2. We're straight, but our pro-feminism is a guise for "getting chicks"; we're really just horny guys who have devised a slick and cynical strategy for sexual conquest. Thus, we ought not to be taken seriously.
3. We're not gay, and we're not sexual predators -- but we're somehow still so fundamentally atypical that our exhortations to other men carry no weight. This is what Mr. Bad presumably means when he says that I am "plumbed like a guy, but act(s) like a girl."
via Hugo Schwyzer - Plumbed Like A Guy, Acts Like A Girl
March 16, 2006
Misogynists In The Minority
I spend alot of time on various websites - and most of those weblogs - gathering interesting posts to bring to The Uncommon Man. One of things I have found distressing is the amount of Men's Rights men who attack these site's comments sections compared to the amount of Feminist or neutral men who make comments. Sometimes it is only one or two, but other times it can be many more. The post below speaks to this phenomenon and reminds me that there are less misogynists than it seems in the world...
via Avast Feminist Conspiracy - Misogynists In My Study
March 15, 2006
How To Be A Nice Guy
Another of my favorite bloggers - Andrea over at Official Shrub - has a great piece for men who want to learn to accept their privilege and how to be an ally to women. Clear and articulate.
via Official Shrub - How To Be A Real Nice Guy
March 14, 2006
Men And Sharing
via Hugo Schwyzer - More On Men And Sharing
March 13, 2006
The assumption about fathers has been that they are either Stay-At-Home Dads or not involved at all - at least as the media covers them. And there has been a lot of press coverage about the difficulty mothers have with juggling work and motherhood. Well, with the Gen X men now becoming fathers, there has been a marked increase of father involvement and an increase in coverage of the difficulty men face in the same juggling contest.
via Time - Viewpoint: Bring On The Daddy Wars
March 10, 2006
Boys Will Be Boys
The "Boys Will Be Boys" message that is continuously reinforced by our culture has a direct and extremely harmful effect on women, the article below point to the aspect of the message that often gets ignored. The message is: boys are "animalistic", less intelligent, and generally "badder" than women - thus also demeaning boys and giving them a low-bar to reach toward.
via Washington Post - What Does "Boys Will Be Boys" Really Mean?
March 09, 2006
Can Women Contribute to Patriarchy?
Below is a well-articulated response to the question - Can women contribute to patriarchy? http://bitingbeaver.blogspot.com/ does not have a pat answer, but does get the heart of the problem (which is the same problem with asking the question about any oppressed people):
But see, here's the problem, We do not live in a vacuum EVERYTHING we do impacts someone else...Women who act out these stereotypes also affect people around them. They affect women all over who didn't ASK to be affected by the poor behavior of other woman...This is where it becomes sticky. Do we have a right to tell the Jenna Jamesonâ€™s of the world that they are perpetuating the cycle of countless millions of women's pain because of their actions? I don't know the answer to that one, it's a moral question, not a black and white question.
via Biting Beaver - Women and Patriarchy
March 08, 2006
Blogging Against Sexism
Today has been declared Blog Against Sexism Day in the "blogosphere". This is appropriate since it is also International Women's Day. Usually the postings on Uncommon Man are small on commentary and big on pointing you to other sites with thought-provoking and informative content. Today I want to make one simple comment before turning you over to some good thinkers. Namely I want to say that the two organizations that sponsor this weblog are great models for a key aspect of ending sexism - getting men on-board to both examine their own personal roles in continuing sexism, and to speak or act out against sexism. I encourage you, if you haven't already, to take a look at these two fantastic organizations:
The Men's Resource Center for Change(website temporarily down).
Now two good places to go and read:
March 07, 2006
Male Infertility and Testicular Cancer
Often male infertility is discovered when a couple is trying to get pregnant. Then, the cause of the infertility will sometimes be ignored and the focus will fall on how to get pregnant (usually through sperm injection or in vitro fertilization). It is important to pursue the cause of the infertility because there is a chance that it is linked to testicular cancer or a blockage in the vas defrens that can be corrected.
via Web MD - Male Infertility and Testicular Cancer
March 06, 2006
Men And Homophobia
One way of dealing with homophobia as a straight person is to be an ally and confront or just simply respond to homophobic comments. Below is an article that shows how the act of a male river rafting guide wearing a pink helmet can offer numerous opportunities to respond to a homophobic world.
via Voice Male - My Pink Helmet
March 03, 2006
Feminism and HBO
I haven't had time to read the pieces on this site, yet, but below is a link to a series of articles that take a feminist look at HBO television series. There are interesting-sounding articles such as: The Ghost of Gary Cooper: Masculinity, Homosocial Bonding and The Sopranos; by Katherine Hyunmi Lee, Claire on the Couch: Discourses of Female Subjectivity, Desire, and Teenage Angst in Six Feet Under; by Janet McCabe, and Fabulousness as Fetish: Queer Politics in Sex and the City; by Cristy Turner.
via S and F Online - Feminist Television Studies: The Case of HBO
March 02, 2006
Masculinity, Patriarchy, and Rape
It has been awhile since I've read a description of how our culture - one that is still, at heart, patriarchal - encourages men to rape. At the weblog, Den of the Biting Beaver, is as good a description of this as I've ever read.
via Den of the Biting Beaver - Rape As Control
March 01, 2006
Feminist-Men And Their Place in Feminism
I believe a great question that men can ask themselves, is the one posed on the website below - "Is there a place for feminist-men in Feminism? I also believe there is a place. I think that this blog and the organizations that support it: Men's Resources International and the Men's Resource Center for Change (and affiliated organizations around the world) are testimony to the place for men in Feminism. Below is a post about a man considering this question and then a response on another weblog from a feminist-woman.
via Mind on Fire - Is There A Place For Feminist-Men in Feminism?
via Self-Portrait As - Is Feminism A Women-Only Movement?