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February 28, 2006

Conference: Media and Visual Culture: Reading the Black Male Body

The American Studies Department at Wheelock College in Boston is holding a one-day conference on April 28th, 2006 entitled “Media and Visual Culture: Reading the Black Male Body.” The keynote speaker is Professor Herman Gray, author of Culture Moves: African Americans and the Politics of Representation. Other speakers include Mark Anthony Neal, Imani Perry, Keith Harris, Joyce Hope Scott, Gail Dines and Susan McDonald. The afternoon will feature a showing of Byron Hurt’s new documentary on hip-hop, Beyond Beats and Rhymes: A Hip-Hop Head Weighs in on Manhood in Hip Hop Culture. The film was recently showcased at the Sundance Film Festival and will be shown on PBS later this year. After the viewing, Byron Hurt will lead a discussion.

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A Man's Job

The article below makes clear the places in the workforce where women are still being kept out, paid-less, minimized and harrassed - its in those jobs we still consider "men's jobs".

via L.A. Times - The Skinny Pink Paycheck Syndrome

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February 27, 2006

Supporting Fathers

The field of Social Work has focused, for years, on the a deficits-model. So, when it came to doing family work fathers, for various reasons, were ignored or pushed away from the family. The article below reflects on the current shift from a deficits-model to a family-model and how this has begun to help integrate fathers into doing the work they may need to do.

via Voice Male - Supporting Couples, Supporting Fathers

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February 24, 2006

Rape: False Accusations

When a false report of a rape is revealed, it is often used to justify the new myth that all a woman has to do is cry "rape" and a man will be convicted. In her blog post below, Cathy Young, offers a response to this situation.

via The Y Files - Rape, Lies and Videotape

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February 23, 2006

On Walking A Woman After Dark

Below is a great piece about the implications of the "simple" act of a man walking a woman after dark. It's one of those acts that even some "pro-feminist" men will still offer to women, without thinking how it may be perpetuating sexism. Some good thoughts...

via Happy Feminist - On Turning Into A Pumpkin After Dark

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February 22, 2006

Ten Years in a Men's Group

To some, the idea of men's groups has gone the way of drumming circles - something that was popular during the Robert Bly years of the men's movement, but is now a "quaint" idea. The two articles below point to the inherent power that a simply-formatted men's group can have.

via Voice Male - Going to the Group: Ten Years Later
via Voice Male - The Revolutionary Act of Sitting in a Support Group

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February 21, 2006

B-Boys Will Be Boys

A few months ago, I posted a piece about the Byron Hurt documentary Beyond Beats and Rhymes: Masculinity in Hip-Hop Culture. Below is an interview with Byron and it illuminates more about his latest film. Beyond Beats and Rhymes premiered at the Sundance Film Festival this year and will play on PBS some time in the future. As soon as we find out the date, we'll post it here.

via Pop Matters - B-Boys Will Be Boys: An interview with Byron Hurt

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February 20, 2006

An Open Letter To All The Liberal Straight Men

The open letter below at the blog Definition is as good a response to those men who identify as pro-feminist (or however they may define their understanding of sexism), and who don't take that definition any deeper than just saying, "yep, women are oppressed." Whether you agree or not - good food for thought.

via Definition - An Open Letter To All The Liberal Straight Men

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February 17, 2006

Violence Can Affect Teen's Physiology

A recent study shows that being exposed to violence - witness or direct experience - can affect a young person's physical health for years.

via Health Central - Violence Can Change Teens' Physiology

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February 16, 2006

Missing Fathers

Over at the weblog, Rebel Dad, is a posting about a new item at the Washington Post. Apparently, someone did an analysis of child and adolescent psychology studies. They followed up on finding that of these studies 48% focused on mothers but only 1% focused on fathers. Since then, the amount of studies increased to only 2%.

Via Rebel Dad - Missing Dad

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February 15, 2006

What Does It Mean To Be A Sex Positive Feminist

In the world of Feminism, the issue of pornography often gets broken down into two simplistic camps: anti-porn feminists and sex-positive feminists. As usual, when breaking down something as complicated as pornography and feminism into two extreme philosophies, you miss most people's true opinions. Andrea at Official Shrub, does a fine job of describing her own perspective on being sex-positive and, thus, helps to illuminate the diversity of opinions on this topic.

via Official Shrub - Sex Positive Does Not Mean Misogyny-Friendly

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February 14, 2006

Race and Sexuality

The always thoughtful and thought-provoking Hugo Schwyzer posted a response to a question posed by one of the regular commenters to his site:

I was just wondering, as you are very much a feminist, about a lot of the stereotyping that goes on, especially regarding asian women. It's a combination of sexism and racism, and it's often perpetrated by Americans and Europeans that go to asia and come back with stories of sex tourism or experiences that label asian women in the most offensive manner.

Hugo's response is an example of trying to match one's political beliefs to one's life. Well done, Hugo.

via - Hugo Schwyzer - A Wednesday Reflection on Race and Sexuality

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February 13, 2006

Violence Goes to College Conference

Violence Goes to College Conference
Boulder, Colorado May 22-24, 2006

The Violence Goes to College Conference offers an interdisciplinary approach and assists a wide range of campus departments, police, advocacy groups, prevention educators, government agencies, parents, and students learn the best practices for preventing violence and minimizing damage in the event of a disaster.

More info here: Violence Goes to College

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Anti-Gay Marriage Bid Fails in Maryland

In the ongoing state-by-state process of defining what "marrige" is - and instituting homophobia - a victory in Maryland:

via Washington Post - Bid in Maryland House to Save Gay Marriage Ban Fails

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February 12, 2006

National Youth Summit: Erasing the Colors of Violence

Students Against Violence Everywhere (SAVE)National Youth Summit
Saturday, April 1, 2006

Each year the National Association of Students Against Violence
Everywhere hosts a Youth Summit for students, educators, law enforcement officers, and community members to celebrate the successes of SAVE chapters and their accomplishments in the violence prevention arena.

McKimmon Center on the campus of North Carolina State University in Raleigh, NC on Saturday, April 1, 2006.

For additional information visit

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February 10, 2006

The Ease of Stalking Through Cell Phones

An article in Guardian Unlimited details (without giving away crucial details) how anyone could track the nearly exact whereabouts of someone else by only gaining access to their cell phone for five minutes. This is clearly an important thing for those that are concerned about stalking.

via Guardian Unlimited - How I stalked My Girlfriend

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February 09, 2006


Sorry about skipping a post yesterday. I was hit by one of those yucky stomach viruses via my son. I am much better today.

Andrea over at Official Shrub takes a look at the intersection of sexism and transphobia by looking at a letter to an editor in a San Francisco magazine. Very illuminating...

via Official Shrub - The Sexism of Transphobia

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Conference on The Achievements of Culturally Diverse Young Men

Promoting The Achievement of Culturally Diverse Young Males
Mid-Atlantic Equity Center Annual Regional Conference
Washington, DC - Friday, March 24, 2006

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February 07, 2006

Gender in the Gaming World

The world of gaming is huge. If you include video games, the gaming world takes in more money than movies and music combined in the entertainment industry. The stereotype is that only awkward, socially-inept males are absorbed in gaming. Two articles below explore the issue of gender and sexual orientation: one breaks the above stereotype, the other looks at the issue of sexual orientation in the World of Warcraft (the largest on-line game).

Gaming and The Gender Gap in the U.K
LGBT Gamers

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American Men's Studies Association Conference and More

14th Annual Conference on Men and Masculinities:
April 7-9, 2006, Eastern Michigan University, Ypsilanti, Michigan
Theme: No Man is an Island : Masculinities in Relation

Two other conferences announced on this site:

Media and Visual Culture: Reading the Black Male Body: The American Studies Department at Wheelock College in Boston will hold a one-day conference on April 28th, 2006

3rd Annual Conference on the College Male: Saint John’s University in Collegeville, MN (near St. Cloud,about 1 hour from Minneapolis) Friday-Sunday, February 17-19, 2006. Theme: Men and Social Justice

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February 06, 2006

Betty Friedan Passes

On Saturday, Feminist leader Betty Friedan died. She was the author of the ground-breaking book The Feminine Mystique. She was also the founder of the National Organization for Women (NOW), convener of the National Women's Political Caucus and a leader in the efforts to pass the Equal Rights Amendment.

via CNN - Betty Friedan, philosopher of modern-day feminism, dies

UPDATE: an overview of the complex work of Betty Friedan - places she stepped things forward, places she fell short. Via Hugo Schwyzer - A Brief Reflection on Betty Friedan

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February 03, 2006

Tips for Dads and Daughters Watching the Super Bowl Together

For the Big Game...

Tips for Dads and Daughters Watching the Super Bowl Together

Fathers and Daughters Watching Sports Together. The national advocacy nonprofit Dads & Daughters knows that this is one of life’s greatest pleasures. But what about those awkward moments—say during a commercial—when you want to throw your hands across her eyes?

Here are some simple tips from Dads & Daughters for fathers and stepfathers watching Sunday’s Super Bowl with their daughters.

1. First, spend part of the pre-game afternoon tossing a football around with her! A Dad who plays sports with his Daughter increases the odds that she’ll grow up healthy and strong!

2. If she doesn't like to play catch, think of taking a walk together or a bike ride. Let her know that you enjoy being with her. The time together may give her an opportunity to talk with you and let you know what is going on in her life. Sometimes daughters see the interest and time their dads devote to sports and feel their dads don't care as much about them. Your attempts to connect with her on Super Bowl Sunday may counter that perception.

3. When watching the game, be aware that what your daughter sees and what you see may be entirely different. She may be struck by the cheerleaders, whose partially clothed bodies look so “perfect.” Instead of enjoying the game, your daughter may be comparing her body to theirs and feeling inadequate.

4. Try to watch the broadcast through her eyes. Would any images or events look or feel different if you were watching as a girl vs. as a man? You might share these perceptions with her and ask her what she thinks.

5. If you see an ad or image that treats females negatively or objectifies them, change the station so you, your daughter, and your family don't have those images in your home. Remote control makes it very easy! Let her know why you decided to change the channel and ask for her feedback.

6. Compare the number and roles of female sports announcers and reporters to the number and role of male announcers and reporters. Talk with each other about what you think those numbers mean. Do they mean that your daughter “can’t” be a big football fan? Could she be taken seriously as a sports announcer someday or should she eliminate this from her career aspirations?

7. Ask her which players and coaches she admires or sees as heroes. Tell her which ones you admire, and then share your reasons with each other.

8. When the game is over, talk about what you each thought were the crucial plays and the most exciting moments. Then ask her if she wants to do something special together next Sunday to keep these conversations rolling and to convince her that the most important man in her life takes her seriously and enjoys being with her.

9. Use the Super Bowl to become more media-literate and sensitive to your daughter's experience. Decide to pay more attention to how the media portrays women and girls. When you see an ad, imagine your daughter's face in it, and then reassess your reaction to it.

To learn more about healthy fathering of girls, visit their website
Dads & Daughters provides men with tools to be better fathers and advocates for our daughters.

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February 02, 2006

Earnings Gender Gap

Over at the weblog Echidne of The Snakes is an in-depth look at the gender gap in earnings. Here is a description of the three-part post:

The first post in this series gives you a concentrated summary of the economic explanations for why men earn more than women, on average, all over the world. The next post will look at actual evidence about the gender gap and how that evidence fits with the theories. The last part of the series explains why the right-wing's explanation for the gender gap in earnings is misleading and mostly incorrect.

via Echidne of The Snakes - Final Offerings

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February 01, 2006

Self-Made Man

A recent book has been generating some thought-provoking discussion. Self-Made Man: One Woman's Journey Into Manhood and Back Again, by Norah Vincent follows the author as she becomes an undercover man to learn more about the world of men. Over at the weblog, Man-O-Pause there are a good set of links to some of the discussion happening in the "blogosphere":

via Man-O-Pause - "Self-Made Man" Strikes A Chord

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