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July 29, 2005

America's Boy Problem

What are your thoughts on this article? It is a review of book in which the current "problem" with boys is summed as: they are either growing up to be obnoxious overbearing barbarians or weak, too-emotional wimps. Is there truth here or is this just an outcry to bring the parenting of boys back to the "good ole days"? Leave your thoughts in the comment section.

Read Opinion: Barbarians and Wimps: America's Boy Problem

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July 28, 2005

Judge Roberts May Not Be The One to Worry About

When it comes to the issue of abortion - a confirmation of Judge Roberts to the Supreme Court would bring the vote tally to four most likely to oppose and four most likely not to oppose - with Judge Kennedy the new swing-vote.

Article: via Women's E-news - Kennedy One to Watch on Abortion

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July 27, 2005

Circumcision Linked to Lower Rate of AIDS

After noticing a higher rate of AIDS in regions of Africa where tribal or religious cultures did not practice circumcision, a study links this practice to AIDS reduction.

Article: via San Francisco Chronicle - Circumcision May Offer Africa AIDS Hope

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July 26, 2005

Do Brains Reveal Gender Differences - Ask Einstein's

According to a study there is a difference between the brains of men and the brains of women. Men's are larger, but are not smarter. Women's brains are faster and more efficient. Men appear to have more grey matter - made of active neurons. Women have more white matter which is responsible for communication between different areas of the brain. The bigger questions are: Is the difference genetic or based on experiences? If brains can be so different and yet function the same, what does this say about the assumption that brains are fundamentally the same. An investigation into the brain of Albert Einstein helped to point the way to some answers...really...

Article: via L.A. Times - Deep, Dark Secrets of His and Her Brains

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July 25, 2005

You The Man

You The Man is a one person play that can be brought to an audience (high school, college, conference) and used as a tool to address domestic and sexual violence. Its focus is on the bystander model where you encourage those who witness DV or SA to respond appropriately. There are several of this type of production out there (I've seen The Yellow Dress and Remote Control at local schools). I think they can be effective tools to get conversations started, but are not a one solution "answer" to these issues, as I've seen some schools use them.

More info: You The Man

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July 22, 2005

A Model Working-Father in a Not-So-Model Field

This is a great little article about a founding partner in a Boston law firm who is committed to spending time with his daughter. He and a small group of other lawyers are trying to change the culture of high-pay for greater load of work in the legal world. The key to this story is that this lawyer is the boss - and sets the tone for the rest of the firm. Frankly, if I were looking for a lawyer in the Boston area, I'd call them right away just from reading this article.

Article: Boston Globe (via BostonWorks): At Law Firms, Changes in Work-Life Policy Start at the Top

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July 21, 2005

A Rival Makes You More of a Man?

Another scientific article that makes me wonder - people get paid to study this stuff? Though this makes a bit more sense, since the results could play a role in helping those with fertility problems. This study reveals that men who view pornography with two men and a woman produce more sperm than pornography with only a woman. Thus, a rival makes you more fertile. Of course, no one seemed to consider latent bi-sexuality.

Article: via New Scientist - Rivals Spur Men to Produce More Sperm

Posted by Russell at 06:31 AM | Comments (0)

July 20, 2005

Father Kills Toddler Over Gay Fears

This is an intense news story about a father who went too far in trying to keep his 3-year-old from being "a sissy". What is even more scary is the defense trying to blame the mother and is possibly going to use "gay panic" as an excuse for his behavior.

Article: PlanetOut Network (via UK.Gay) Father "Killed Toddler Over Gay Fears", Court Hears

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July 19, 2005

Frequently Asked Questions about VAWA and Gender

Q: Why is the bill called the Violence Against Women Act?
A: Senator Biden, author of the 1994 VAWA, explains why the Act specifically names women: "The reality is that the vast majority of victims of domestic violence are women and children, and most outreach organizations take those demographics into consideration when providing services . . . The bottom line is - violence is violence no matter what gender the victim. Because of that, the Violence Against Women Act applies to all victims of domestic violence, irrespective of their gender. Nothing in the act denies services, programs, funding or assistance to male victims of violence."

Q: Does the Violence Against Women Act currently serve men?
A: Yes. VAWA funds continue to be available for services provided to victims regardless of gender, and male victims frequently receive help from VAWA-funded programs. For example, men who contact domestic violence and sexual assault programs and hotlines are provided advocacy services and legal assistance to protect their safety. VAWA programs also train law enforcement officers on how to respond to and assess situations of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault and stalking, which enhances their capacity to properly identify victims and their perpetrators.

Q: Will the reauthorization of VAWA improve services for men?
A: Yes. In addition to continuing to serve all victims regardless of gender, all program grants in VAWA 2005 have been expanded to assist underserved populations. In fact, the expansion of the sexual assault programs will better meet the needs of men, who experience sexual assault more frequently than domestic violence. The reauthorization of VAWA will serve more men than ever before, and it will better protect men from victimization.

Q: Who are the majority of victims of domestic violence?
A: The Bureau of Justice Statistics, National Institute of Justice, and Centers for Disease Control studies all conclude that victims of intimate partner violence are overwhelmingly female. A recent study reports that women compose 84% of spouse abuse victims and 86% of victims of abuse by a boyfriend or girlfriend. In terms of victimization, intimate partner violence against men is overwhelming committed by male perpetrators.

Q: Who are more likely to be victims of violent crimes committed by intimate partners?
A: The Department of Justice has found that women are far more likely to be the victims of violent crimes committed by intimate partners than men, especially when a weapon is involved. Women are 7 to 14 times more likely to report severe violence by an intimate partner, where they are beaten, choked, almost drowned, threatened with a gun, or shot. When women use force with their intimate partners, it is most often in the context of self-defense. Furthermore, a "significant amount of research reports that women suffer more negative consequences as a result of violence from a current or former male partner than men do from a current or former female partner."

Q: What about rape, sexual assault and stalking?
A: Women are almost 6 times as likely as men to be victims of rape or attempted rape in their lifetime. While 9 out of 10 rape victims are women, men and boys are also victimized by this crime. Around the world at least 1 woman in every 3 has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused in her lifetime. Women are 3.5 times more likely to be stalked in their lifetime.

Q: What about studies that report equal rates of victimization between men and women?
A: Most studies that report equal rates of victimization typically use the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS), which is severely flawed. The CTS ignores the context, motivations, meanings, and consequences of intimate partner abuse. Surveys that use the CTS generally count the raw number of violent acts committed while ignoring the context of the violence. Many women resort to violence to defend themselves against the aggression of their male partners, while men generally use violence in order to control their female partners. The CTS uses a focused, singular approach that often does not uncover the complete picture of violence and results in misleading statistics about the incidence and frequency of abuse of women as compared to men.

via Michael Flood

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July 18, 2005

China Dealing With "Boy Glut"

Is it China's one-child policy? Or is it an issue deeper than that because it is a problem in other Asian nations? Either way, a country that has favored sons over daughters is now preparing to deal with the consequences.

Article: New York Times (via Scholastic News): China Starts To Give Girls Their Due.

Posted by Russell at 07:01 AM | Comments (0)

July 17, 2005

Sex Talk Podcast

What is a Podcast, you ask? A podcast is a talking weblog of-a-sort. Or it is a rebel radio show broadcast over the internet. Whatever it is, if you can play Mp3s on your computer, Ipod, or Ipod-clone, you can listen to a Podcast. More importantly to this site, a stay-at-home father blogger - Rebel Dad - has a podcast called Sex Talk. It is not about porn...instead it is about gender issues. I have yet to check it out, but thought it would be good to let others listen to it and let me know what they think.

More info: Sex Talk

Posted by Russell at 10:59 AM | Comments (0)

July 16, 2005

Worldwide - Fathers Are More Involved...And Oh Yeah, Why Men Have Nipples

A brief article that gives the results of a world-wide study on father involvement with their children. World-wide there has been substantial increases in various countries (U.S. fathers in the 90's were parenting 55% - 70% as much as mothers - up from 25% in the 60's). The "winner" of the best fathering culture - the AKA Pygmies from the Northern Congo. And, they use their nipples to sooth their babies. Well, this may answer the long-considered question - "what are they for?" but, let's see if that ignites a new trend amongst U.S. and European fathers...

Article: via Father's Direct - Worldwide Study Heralds Global Increase in Father Involvement and Reveals Why Men Have Nipples

Posted by Russell at 08:55 AM | Comments (0)

July 15, 2005

Men For VAWA Declaration of Support

Men, please sign this declaration to encourage legislators to re-authorize the Violence Against Women's Act (VAWA). This act has, since 1994, helped to reduce the rates of domestic violence and sexual assault. Don't let this important piece of legislation fade away.

More info: Men For VAWA Declaration of Support

Posted by Russell at 08:06 AM | Comments (0)

July 14, 2005

Real Dad Magazine

The magazine publishing world has finally created a bi-monthly called Real Dad for fathers. Its hard to tell from the website what the focus and tone is. Is it really about supporting father's and giving practical advice? Or is it about selling products and reducing parenting issues to top ten lists?

More info: Real Dad Magazine

Posted by Russell at 07:49 AM | Comments (0)

July 13, 2005

Echoes of Violence

National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) is holding their 30th Annual Men and Masculinity Conference along with the 17th Men's Studies Association Meeting at Georgia State University from August 4th through 6th.

More Info: NOMAS Conference 2005

Posted by Russell at 07:37 PM | Comments (1)

The Scent of a Man

A study finds that men exposed to the male phermone andersol were more likely to purchase men's lifestyle magazine. My question: who does these studies and why?

Article: New Scientist - Male Sweat Sells Men's Lifestyle Magazines

Posted by Russell at 07:32 PM | Comments (0)

July 11, 2005


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